Did everything just taste purple?

Okay, so I’m trying this again. I had this really long blog last night and then my internet freaked out and I lost it. So, I’m trying this again…

We went to see Brokeback Mountain last night. That wasn’t too bad. I liked it, for the most part. It was a little slow, but the story was good overall. There wasn’t very much dialogue. It seemed that the really important parts were really rushed through and what didn’t seem extremely important took quite a while. I don’t know. It was good. It was sad. But then again, I’ve never been a huge fan of love stories.

So, I had this really strange conversation last night with some friends. The subject was marriage, interesting enough. Anyway…we got on the subject…actually, I have no idea how. There were 4 of us in the conversation. Two on two. As I’ve stated many times before, I am not anti-marriage. I have never said that I will never get married, but the idea does not make sense in my mind. The opposing side said that it doesn’t make sense not to get married. Yeah, still working on that one. Anyway…my friend said, “It’s what you do when you want to spend the rest of your life with someone…it’s the next step of the relationship.” I guess what I heard was, “It’s what you are supposed to do.” I don’t get “the next step” thing. I mean, what happens after you get married? What’s the next step after that? Death? So that the one person can move on from the relationship and begin the cycle again? Okay, I’m being a bit more cynical here than I had been, but seriously, I don’t think that’s a sufficient reason for marriage. I think that you can let someone know that you want to spend the rest of your life with them without having to get married. I honestly don’t think that a ring, ceremony, or a license will make anyone more committed to a relationship. If you are both committed to it, then you are committed to it. I don’t feel that marriage is absolutely necessary in order to let someone know you love them & are in it forever. A ring offers no guarantees, nor does the lack of one mean that love and commitment do not exist. I’m not saying don’t get married. By all means, do it. If it’s for you---again, it’s not for everyone. My friend today asked me, then why? Why do I believe that people should get married? I simply stated that I believe people who truly love each other and want to get married should get married. If they want it to symbolize their connection & commitment to one another, then by all means, that is wonderful. But if they are just looking for a way to “secure” that eternal union, then I don’t think it’s the way to go. I don’t think that all marriages are a product of insecure people trying to hold on to a way to keep a relationship, or just a default for “what now?” My god, my parents have been married for 32 years. That’s amazing. I think it’s wonderful. The operative word in all of this is “want”---having a desire to do something. If people are perfectly happy with what they have, then great. If they want more, then wonderful. I guess all I’m really trying to say is…to each his own. *sigh* Enough…

On to a different subject…I started my new job today. It wasn’t too bad. Apparently I’m going to get a lot of reading done at this one too. I did one exchange and one supervised visitation. The kids are adorable. Oh my gosh. So cute! I’m going to have to read their files just so that I can get to know more about the cases. I think I’m going to like it, but I will definitely have to find something to do during the down time. I’ll report more later in the week.

Well, I’m getting a little tired, so…’til next time…